One of our responsibilities is to model for our kids how to appropriately handle conflict. We cannot do this if we are reacting explosively or emotionally every time we are in conflict with them.
Many times telling them they’re doing “good” leaves them unsure of how to replicate the good in the future; this can make it feel arbitrary, and take away their sense of ownership and control.
Okay, all my administrators out there, I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Your teachers are just like your kids.
We tend to be very reactive in conversations with our students. We can completely reform a negative conversation if we are more intentional when we speak. How do you communicate?
For most of our students, perception is reality. If they feel that you don't like them, they are going to act like kids whose teacher doesn't like them.
I can completely understand why a teacher might feel this way... So try thinking about it like this.
The goal of this blog is not to give you a program... I'm here to help you find what works best for you, in your classroom.